Psalm 55:
Steps to take when someone you love has hurt you badly (based on Psalm 55):
- "Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you;" (Psalm 55:22a,
1 Pet 5:6–7). We should come to Jesus with our burdens (Mat 11:28–30).
A burden is usually about things that we aren't sure how to respond and what to do about, and makes us frustrated. It can be an injury, a disappointment,
or even decisions that we have to make. Many times it involves fear due to some kind of pain. Then we must remember that we are getting closer
God the Father in the righteousness of Jesus (not in our own strength),
in the name of Jesus (Heb 4:16). My sin has been atoned for through Jesus, see The Atonement. See also Psalm 51: Coming to God when we fail. I have to ask God repeatedly in prayer to help me deal with the problem properly. - Complain to God and not to men (Psalm 55:1–2, 17). God won't be offended, people might. Don't speak evil of anyone (Titus 3:2).
- Tell the Lord exactly how you feel. King David did (Psalm 55:4–5).
It's called relationship with the Lord and not religion. - Give voice to faith in God, see Faith in Faith, Hope, and Agape Love. During prayer express statements of faith in God. David did so (Psalm 55:16, 19, 22).
- Forgive as you have been forgiven, see below.
Forgive as you have been forgiven:
(Mat 6:12). If we don't forgive people their trespasses, God won't forgive ours,
and in fact we risk being lost forever (Mat 6:14–15, Mark 11:25–26), see time
54:31–1:00:27 in Matthew 6:1-15 – Life in His Kingdom: How to Give and Pray.
See also the comment on the 6th commandment in the The Ten Commandments.
(Mat 18:21–22, Luk 17:3–4). What Jesus means is to forgive unlimited times.
see time 16:42–20:45 in October 2024 Bible Q&A. Only by forgiving that person
will my soul be free. If I don't forgive that person, I sin and jeopardize my own forgiveness from God. Whether or not the person repents and asks for my forgiveness makes no difference. I need to forgive that person, who has to deal
with God about his wrongs, but that is between that person and God.
Whether or not this person reconciles with God is irrelevant to this one truth:
I must forgive this person. See The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant.
To walk in unforgiveness is to walk in slavery and makes us bitter.
To walk in forgiveness is to walk in freedom.
- Time 45:55–46:55 in September 2024 Bible Q&A.
- Time 47:08–52:03 in February 2025 Bible Q&A.
17:59–26:58 in Ephesians 5 (Part 1) :1-2 • A Life Pleasing to God (Eph 5:1–2).
A good way to prevent bitterness in your heart is to regularly pray for people who have done bad things or hurt you. That's easy to say but hard to do.
Jesus forgave those who tortured and crucified him, even though they never asked for forgiveness (Luke 23:34), see The Crucifixion of Jesus. Stephen forgave those who stoned him to death (Acts 7:55–60). We must forgive unconditionally, however wrongly they have acted towards us. We must try to forgive our fellow human beings in the same way that God forgives us. If we don't forgive, we leave room for bitterness, something that spreads like a disease (Heb 12:15).